I had a bad habit of over-committing myself from time to time.

Today, for example, I have a to-do list with 20 hour-long items on it. It’s a work list that doesn’t include things on my personal to-do list (which is much longer — I haven’t had the chance to cull down like Paul has).

When I overcommit, I end up canceling appointments, showing up 15 minutes late to every meeting, and going to bed late – and the cycle just keeps on going until I do something to break it.

It makes me look bad; like I’m lazy even though I’m working harder than ever. It makes me look like I need to be managed (even though fixing the problem is as simple as saying “No”). It’s like those restaurants in Kitchen Nightmares who have a million different things on the menu – the three things they do well are great, but take forever to get to the pass. Everything else induces rampant food poisoning.

I’ve given away free billable hours because of it. I’ve had non-business partnerships decimated by it. I’ve been badmouthed to my friends and associates because of it.

It’s funny how saying “Yes” to even one more task can cause so much damage. I see it now, though – and I’m owning it. It’s a habit I intend to kill like Napoleon Dynamite kills braincells (fast and without remorse).

This doesn’t mean anyone should stop asking me for things and isn’t directed at anyone in particular. I’m just venting.

Just know, if you ask me for something and I say “No”, it’s not because I don’t care – it’s because I wouldn’t be able to give you enough bandwidth right now to really help you. And, if you see me saying “Yes” to something you know I don’t have time for, bug me about it, will ya?

PS – the haters can eat crow. Real partners don’t put roadblocks in your way – if they don’t like your direction, they let you know and walk you through or step back to help you see from another angle until you get righted again. Anyone else is a joker who isn’t worth your time.

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I’m a bad Blog host. I show up, rant for days, and then disappear into the fray. I’m working on that – the last few weeks I’ve been keeping a lot to myself.

About a year ago someone said, “I don’t think people follow your blog as closely as you think they do.” It halted me in my tracks. I write for me, to be sure, but suddenly, I didn’t have a voice; in my mind, I didn’t have anything to say that people would want to read.

So, I retreated – I stopped working for myself and lost that feeling that I was the Captain, the guy who took charge and led the way. And for eight months, I had some really good times and some really bad times. I was doing good work, but I wasn’t making a difference and my confidence wasn’t coming back.

There’s a scene – and this will seem silly to you non-Trekkies out there – in Star Trek: Generations where Captain Kirk and Captain Picard meet. I’ve included it below; it’s something I think about every day.

Show transcript

I eventually realized that I don’t work well while standing in someone else’s shadow. My confidence wouldn’t come back because I’d done good work – I had to get my hands dirty and make things happen for myself. I decided that I’d quit that job on Xmas day – and did.

The last two months have been intensely introspective. I started to rebuild my confidence and sense of leadership, and started looking toward the future. I became The Geek Superhero – and did everything I could to live up to that title. I re-built my business; started right. Fixing a lot of the mistakes I made along the way last time. Built up a client base to provide a tight, but livable income.

A lot of the projects I put on hold for the last year are on my mind along with some new ones. The Digital Gunslingers. PodCamp Fort Collins 2. CareerCamp. Psychotic Resumes… TEDxFoCo.

I can’t do it alone, but I’m confident that I can lead the way. It’s time to make a difference – and I’ll stand with you if you feel the same way.

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Jake Jabbs was a guest being interviewed, so I asked him about his branding.  No disrespect intended, but American Furniture Warehouse, I said, didn’t have too much American-made furniture last time I was in.

I should preface this by saying that good furniture can come from anywhere – Americans aren’t the end-all-be-all producers of everything amazing.  The question was never about furniture.  It was about branding and values.

Jake responded by informing us that 60% of what he buys is American furniture and he prefers American when he can get it.  

To brand yourself as American when you really mean only 60% is dishonest. So I followed up.

You set the values of your brand yourself - everything is stars and stripes, wouldn’t it make sense to advertise those values?  Isn’t it your responsibility as the leading American furniture spokesperson to educate your marketplace that if you want American, it will cost more than if you import it?

Jake answered by rehashing the old, “That’s a question of politics.  Customers choose the price points of the market…” and “Americans can’t compete on certain things”.  At which point I lost the floor for asking questions.

Jake Jabbs answered honestly and professionally – and I have no quarrel with a guy who’s employed (and retained) so many people over so many years.  I even went and shook his hand afterward and thanked him for answering (and he thanked me for asking). I can’t fault Jake Jabbs for doing what he thought was right – because at the end of the day, he’s true to his values and still buys American when he can – but American and Affordable (the market he’s developed) are sometimes mutually exclusive in his business.  Fair enough.

Afterward, though – after a series of increasingly painful “duh”-level questions from the University of Northern Colorado business student audience, one UNC student in particular came up to me and expressed his embarrassment that I’d asked the question – implying I’d embarrassed everyone with my bigoted “pro-American attitude”.

First of all – this was a question about branding and values.  Being embarrassed is the purview of a brainwashed sheep.  It’s like looking at Star Wars and thinking, “Oh, I don’t support War, so I won’t watch the movie.” Frankly, I expected more out of the UNC students.  What kind of college student are you if you can’t ask -potentially- red flag questions at the risk of looking like a total ass?  That’s what college is for.  That’s how you learn.  Take risks – that’s what entrepreneurship is about.

If you’re an entrepreneur, a business student, and afraid to ask the question, “Hey, uh… when you say American, what exactly do you mean?” then you shouldn’t be at college.  If you’re embarrassed by the implications of a question like that, you’ve become a blind, politically correct sheep.  You do not deserve the privilege of the hard-working professors’ time.

Second – when did patriotism become uncooth?  Remember that we’re talking about a business that shortens its name in advertisements to “American Furniture”.  That implies that you sell American furniture.  American furniture should, by nature of the name, come from America – there’s nothing bigoted about it, that’s the fucking name of the business.  Moreover, what about local artisans – like the chair-makers of Parker or the table-makers of Fort Collins?  Do they have a place at American furniture?

Why did nobody else ask these sorts of questions? What the fuck?

Only three people in that audience could look me in the eye after I’d asked a simple question about branding.  No wonder we don’t praise Entrepreneurs in this country.  If the best entrepreneur candidates in the room have a “don’t ask questions, be a sheep” mentality we don’t deserve praise.

The most important lesson is this: things cost what they cost.  The basic premise that drives this lesson is trust.  Trust between the buyer and the seller that the price is accurate and fair.  Without inherent honesty about accurate and fair pricing, someone’s getting screwed.  Without trust, it’s only natural to assume you are the one getting screwed, even if this isn’t the case.

Good business people will be blatantly honest about three things:

• What things cost;
• Why certain things cost more than others;
• How much higher or lower their price is, comparative to similar businesses

For more on this, check out Seth Godin’s The Dip and Waiter Rant by The Waiter – probably the two best non-business reads on fair pricing.

After I take a moment to remember the people, I usually come to the same conclusion: the greatest destructive force in our lives is the drive for affluence. What some will do to save $1 is unthinkable – what some will do to gain $1 is often worse.

Sitting in a cubicle, day after day, the value of that dollar starts to decline, doesn’t it?  But all the stuff we’ve created and tricked ourselves into thinking we need – a brand new, more expensive car, endless shelves of DVDs collecting dust, fancier couches, fancier furniture, more square footage to put all the junk we’re accumulating.

Even though we loathe the 9+ hours we’re away from our families, without access to natural light, a window, or even taking lunch breaks, we persist at sitting there.

Being self-employed, I value my own time.  I know if I don’t pull in enough, the roof over my head will disappear.  In order to keep that from happening, I have to inflict monetary damage on someone else: monetary damage that, if they had my skills, they’d never have to pay.  The urge is always there, human nature, I guess, to offer one more service, one more thing I can charge for that they might get value out of.

In a way, I’m every bit the “capitalist” bad guy that I detest.  But then I remember that I’m usually doing business with friends – and if they’re not friends yet, they soon will be.  I don’t do business with bad people – I’m very blessed to have so many wonderful business friends.  I can’t justify doing unnecessary damage.  That’s not how I do business.

Business is inherently evil, cutthroat, and populated by the vile, disgusting mirrors of decent, hard-working people.  That’s just the nature of the game.  The value of the $1.  By extension, entrepreneurship introduces you to the lowest fucking depths of the human psyche – ones so dark you can’t imagine them – because it’s not “the man” or a corporation bending you over, it’s another person.

I don’t play by those rules.  It’s why I offer $1 classes while others charge ridiculous sums of money to share the same ideas.  It’s why I do business with people like Ron and Ava and Viveka and Tracy and Laurie, who believe the same things I do.  It’s why I take on just as much pro-bono work as I do paid.  It’s why I don’t overcharge my friends with recommendations for unnecessary services or by padding my hours.  Google might have said it first, but Do No Evil is my mantra, too – and I’m getting better at it every day.

If I could do it all for free, I would, because I’m damn good at it and I love the work.  Sometimes I’m metaphorically punched in the face for this view.  If you can’t take a little bloody nose once in a while, you ought to turn right around and head for the cubes.

Mark my words – I’m going to change the game.

I want to know who your favorite millennial entrepreneurs are.

As much fun as it is to write about my own experiences in the Captain’s chair of my own destiny, I really want to hear from you.

Millennial Entrepreneurs.  Or, if you’re not both of those things – who you would espouse as the cream of the crop of the Millennial Entrepreneurs.

So – leave me comments, give me a list – and then I’ll feature your picks (and their companies) on the Psychotic Resumes podcast in a few weeks!

Here are my two favorite (besides myself – WTF Marketing) from Fort Collins:

Crystal from 3 Elements and Christina, a Northern Colorado Wedding Photographer

My calling is to kick ass

The hardest part of becoming an entrepreneur hasn’t been the looming threat of financial failure, the haunting scent of the cardboard Dell box that might soon be my home, or even sacrificing the “niceties” like healthcare insurance, Grade-A food, and free time.

Instead, the hardest part so far has been learning to be accountable.  As a cubicle employee, I was only accountable to my boss.  As an entrepreneur, I’m accountable to myself, my clients, and everyone else who depends on me in some function to do a good job.

For as long as I can remember, I have kicked ass.  I’m not… you know, tooting my own horn or anything – but, I got a 4.16 GPA in high school, participated in the Drama Club, made websites that took first and second place in state web design competitions, and organized a group of over 500 people to participate in a Star Trek club.  In college, I ran my own talk show – interviewed Doug Hutchinson – the Fort Collins Mayor, Puke and Snot from the Colorado Renaissance Festival, and entertained thousands as a prime-time DJ.

Then I graduated, landed a kick-ass job at HP making more money than any graduate out of college has a right to and then realized that the working world didn’t want a rock star – they wanted someone who would shut up and follow orders.  They wanted a cog.  And for two years, I played along.  Hell, I was playing along even now – today.

What a horrible, horrible mistake.  There were fits and starts of brilliance – Giant Gnome, Psychotic Resumes… but holy hell, what did I let myself become?

My mistake has turned me into the bumbling idiot – 15 minutes late to everything, overwhelmed, barely succeeding, missing deadlines, not good at communicating.  This isn’t me.  I get so frustrated with myself because I know I can do better – I just let those things slip away as a side-effect of doing something that wasn’t my calling.  When I finally got the programming job every programmer dreams of, I blew it because I was stuck in “mediocre mode”. 

F*CK.

No more. This is my shot to do something good in the world.  I’m not going to blow it like Taco Bell blows it when you order a chicken taco.

This is it – this is what I’m afraid of – why I can joke about “meaningless” consequences like homelessness and the lack of health insurance. The real consequence of failure isn’t that tangible bullshit. The real cost of failure is my self-respect, the respect of my friends, my mentors.

It took two smart people to wake me the hell up this morning.  Today is a sort of “wake up” call for me that I need to get my ass back in gear.  I’ve been slouching since HP – it’s not my lot in life to be ordinary.

Thanks goes to Ron of CodeGeek.Net and Laurie of Blue Skies Marketing – I’m very fortunate to have them as mentors – thankful in the way that words can’t express.  Without them, I likely would be living out of that Dell box already.  What I’ve learned from them could fill an entire blog, but I’ll share with you the best advice they gave me this morning:

• Bring order to the chaos that your client is feeling – even if you’re freaking the hell out, too;
• Tell the client “No” when you have to – it’s better than breaking a deadline;
• Help the client arrive at realistic expectations – doing anything else sets both parties up for failure;
• Don’t give a reason for delays – they sound too close to excuses;
• Always communicate – communicate if there’s a problem, before there’s a problem, as much as you can, always.

I’m fired up – the fuse is lit.  It’s time for me to get back to kicking ass.

1. What did I learn last week? –
   I learned that I’m pretty good at design – when it’s not my own design.  Check out 3 Elements Marketing – I put this site together in the span of about 12 hours (sans the logo).  When it’s my own design, it’s really hard to see and put together… the usual “vision moments” don’t happen as often.  It’s pretty frustrating and holding up the WTF Marketing website, but I think tomorrow will be my day.  I also learned that certain aspects of my humor work better than others – one of the business card designs I made was the most popular, by far.
2. What was my greatest accomplishment over the past week? –
   My greatest accomplishment was the WTF Marketing launch party.  I really enjoyed putting it together.  Leslie was a key part of making sure it went smoothly.  I really enjoyed having her help to bounce ideas off of and make the event as successful as it was.  I loved that everyone got something useful out of the launch of my business.
3. Which moment from last week was the most memorable and why? –
   The best moment of the week was the WTF Marketing launch party – people laughed at my jokes, they had fun, and people met others who could help them with their businesses.  I couldn’t be any more proud.  The worst moment of the week was two-fold and had to do with communication difficulties via e-mail, when my tone couldn’t be determined or I misinterpreted other’s tones.
4. What’s the #1 thing I need to accomplish this week? –
   The WTF Marketing website MUST be completed. (again)
5. What can I do right now to make the week less stressful? –
   Finish the WTF Marketing website and smile more.
6. What have I struggled with in the past that might also affect the upcoming week? –
   The biggest struggle has been fighting with the WTF Marketing website to try and get something I like designed.  The only other big struggle was the communication difficulties.  Email can’t indicate tone, which is a huge problem.
7. What was last week’s biggest time sink? –
   The vertigo.  Saturday afternoon I had a vertigo attack and slept late to Sunday, which was a big productivity sink.
8. Am I carrying any excess baggage into the week that can be dropped? –
   I’ve had a hard time with stress this week, so keeping that from impacting me – making sure to enjoy myself and be positive, that will need to happen more often.
9. What have I been avoiding that needs to get done? –
   The WTF Marketing website.
10. What opportunities are still on the table? –
    I need to hit up coffee with a few clients, work on the TV thing, multi-user wordpress and get the WTF Marketing website done.  The MeetUp groups need to be created.
11. Is there anyone I’ve been meaning to talk to? –
    I definitely need to meet with an accountant about WTF Marketing’s taxes!
12. Is there anyone that deserves a big ‘Thank You’? –
    Leslie – for keeping me sane.  Laurie, Viv, and Ava, for their gifts at the Startup Party.  And a huge thanks to all the great people who showed up!  Ron also deserves a HUGE thank you for his sponsorship of my MeetUp group!
13. How can I help someone else this coming week? –
    I can put together Margo’s website and finish Crystal’s.
14. What are my top 3 goals for the next 3 years? –
    • I want to make enough from WTF Marketing to buy my own health insurance.
    • I want to make enough from WTF Marketing to pay off my medical bills.
    • I want to expand WTF Marketing into Denver at some point.
15. Have any of my recent actions moved me closer to my goals? –
    By holding a launch party and speaking at FCIP, I’ve helped to establish myself as more of a “professional” in town.  At least, I think so, haha.
16. What’s the next step for each goal? –
    • I have to put the MeetUp groups together.
    • I have to keep spending wisely.
    • I have to save up while I’m making sure every bill is getting paid.
17. What am I looking forward to during the upcoming week? –
    I want to see Harry Potter at the Drive-In with Leslie.  This week we saw The Ugly Truth which was a lot of fun!
18. What are my fears? –
    Becoming an overly-negative person.
19. What am I most grateful for? –
    I’m most grateful for Leslie who’s kept me on the right track this week, helped me work out problems, and solve a lot of issues I would have had otherwise.
20. If I knew I only had one week to live, who would I spend my time with? –
    Duh

Brian’s project is, without a doubt, one of the most important ideas ever to grace the realm of business.

One man, seeking wisdom, finding experts, and not only promoting those businesses and lauding them for their amazing success and achievements, but creating one of his own at the same time.

If you’ve met with me in person, I’ve undoubtedly told you that business, as it exists today – that is, corporate, sleazy, competitive, tie-wearing, 8AM coffee chugging BS business, is going to die a slow, painful death.  The future business world will be ruled by roving bands of entrepreneurs who group together and do the work previously done by medium and large-size corporations.

Millennials will not play the regular corporate game. Only 20% of 2009′s grads are employed after looking for jobs.  The jobs that are available require highly-skilled people willing to accept dirt-poor salaries.  71% of those under 30 are looking to switch jobs after the “economic recovery”.

The writing is on the wall.  It costs 130% of a person’s salary to fill a position after a layoff.  130%!  If you think the economy will recover by bailing out and supporting big businesses, you’re absolutely nuts.  These companies are failing for a reason.  Laying off your workforce is not the answer.  I don’t care how you justify it – when you lose people and have to pay 130% to hire each one back again, you will never recover those costs.

Those jobs are gone – probably forever.  That talent, that knowledge, will go to better use for your competitor, for an entrepreneur, for… well, you name it.

In order to fix businesses, we have to collaborate, not compete.  We have to be secure in the knowledge that the “king of the hill” mentality is a game played by losers and only one winner.

The three most important words for business today, besides “Let’s do coffee…” are now “Let me help.”

Lincoln knew this.  A house divided against itself cannot stand. Let’s win together.

How can I help you?

One of the ways I’ve started doing this is to keep an offline record of hours worked.  Another is one that I discovered today and want to try out.  It’s called a Sunday Reflection – it comes from the blog Marc and Angel Hack Life.  I thought it would be a great way to hold myself accountable and track my progress.  The whole exercise is supposed to take 30 minutes – it’s 10:30 right now, so… let’s see how I do.

1. What did I learn last week? –
   I learned that friends can surprise you no matter how well you think you know them.  I also learned a lot about Thematic, having built out my personal blog, and that Star Trek will take up a lot of my consciousness if I let it.  Sometimes it’s better just to turn the TV off, even if it’s my favorite episode.
2. What was my greatest accomplishment over the past week? –
   The new theme on I Am Nick Armstrong.  It took a long time and it was GREAT to get it at least half-way started.  Totally beats using a stock theme… and I also really enjoyed giving my Ignite presentation again for the Refresh NoCo crowd.
3. Which moment from last week was the most memorable and why? –
   It’s a split between talking for the Refresh NoCo crowd and the most disappointing thing of the week.  The Refresh NoCo event was awesome – I got to meet a lot of fun new people and I also had a blast giving the talk again.  The most disappointing thing of the week was realizing the people who should be there for you sometimes aren’t – or at least don’t make it apparent.
4. What’s the #1 thing I need to accomplish this week? –
   The WTF Marketing website MUST be completed.
5. What can I do right now to make the week less stressful? –
   Finish the WTF Marketing website… and land a steady, good-paying contract.
6. What have I struggled with in the past that might also affect the upcoming week? –
   I’ve had a hard time keeping a positive attitude.  At the moment, it’s very difficult for me to see past the bills every month.  This will be a huge consideration this week, especially if the Facebook for your Business and Online Reputation Management classes don’t get filled.  This is more true of the July 23 one than the August 5 one.
7. What was last week’s biggest time sink? –
   Star Trek on Justin.TV.
8. Am I carrying any excess baggage into the week that can be dropped? –
   The negative attitude of “oh my god I have no money”.
9. What have I been avoiding that needs to get done? –
   WTF Marketing website and blogging on Psychotic Resumes.
10. What opportunities are still on the table? –
    The WTF Marketing website can be set up correctly.
11. Is there anyone I’ve been meaning to talk to? –
    I definitely need to meet with an accountant about WTF Marketing’s taxes!
12. Is there anyone that deserves a big ‘Thank You’? –
    Leslie – for keeping me sane.  Laurie, Debbie, Viv, Ava, Ron and the wonderful peeps at Toolbox Creative, for keeping me working.
13. How can I help someone else this coming week? –
    I’m going to help Crystal by making her website and I’m helping Ron (and he’s helping me) by my presentation this Thursday at the Fort Collins Internet Pros Meetup on WordPress.
14. What are my top 3 goals for the next 3 years? –
    • I want to make enough from WTF Marketing to buy my own health insurance.
    • I want to make enough from WTF Marketing to pay off my medical bills.
    • I want to make enough from WTF Marketing to buy a house or condo.
15. Have any of my recent actions moved me closer to my goals? –
    I’ve been doing lots of meetings… and turning those meetings into client work, but nothing sustainable yet.
16. What’s the next step for each goal? –
    • I have to make sure all my other bills are paid each month, which is happening (albeit very, very closely.)
    • I have to make sure I’m spending wisely as I pay off my medical bills.
    • I have to save up while I’m making sure every bill is getting paid.
17. What am I looking forward to during the upcoming week? –
    I want to see Harry Potter at the Drive-In with Leslie.
18. What are my fears? –
    Running out of money, getting evicted… game over.
19. What am I most grateful for? –
    I’m most grateful for the people who have faith in me.  People who think that I can do this.  People who want to see me succeed.
20. If I knew I only had one week to live, who would I spend my time with? –
    Duh