For me, it’s an emotion that hits hard and fast… and then it’s gone and not useful.  A few days ago I lost my girlfriend, my best friend, and that was -really- difficult for me.  I’ll always treasure the good times that we had.  I really appreciate the support my friends have given me to get through it.

Instead of moping, though, I always feel better when I get down to the bare-bones facts.  It’s what led me to start my own business after I lost my job, and to keep going even through the difficult times.  And the fact is that she and I can do better separate than together.  She’s an amazing person, but I’m not the amazing person for her, and she’s not the amazing person for me.  We both made choices months ago that led to us largely being lonely and separated from each other, and I can’t speak for her, but I was getting so frustrated that I had a hard time remembering the good times.  Breaking up just made official what we already knew.

So now isn’t the time for more grief, now is the time to look forward to all the new firsts to enjoy.  It may not be perfect, but it’ll be better.